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IAmMommy7
At the beginning, we did tummy time with our baby on our chest. I would do it while laying at a slight incline with a timer. My partner would do it laying flat without a timer. Baby would do well for a few minutes then start crying/screaming. However, it’s been an ongoing disagreement between us when to stop tummy time. I stop when our baby excessively cries and is letting out a bloodcurdling scream. My partner, however, has always continued for several minutes while our baby is letting out that bloodcurdling scream. I’ve asked multiple times to use a timer and to stop tummy time when baby excessively screams like that because it stresses baby out, it stresses me out to see/hear our baby go through that, it is not cultivating a positive association with tummy time, and I looked up and showed my partner that it is recommended to stop when baby excessively cries. However, my partner has always insisted on continuing despite the screams.
Fast forward to now, my partner now uses a timer. Our baby does tummy time just fine for several minutes a day on a boppy pillow, without crying/screaming. Baby has been meeting the recommended time per day and sometimes we do extra tummy time as tolerated. When I do tummy time with our baby, I again wait until baby’s cry/scream becomes excessive/bloodcurdling before I pick him up and stop the timer. HOWEVER, when my partner does tummy time on the boppy pillow with our baby, my partner still keeps going for several minutes while baby is letting out this bloodcurdling scream during that time. My partner is usually doing this when I’m not around, which is aggravating and sewing distrust in me. My partner also does this despite our baby having already done the recommended amount of tummy time per day.
When should we stop tummy time? Are there any articles or studies you can point me to about this so I can show my partner? Am I being too sensitive?
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ouat2244
omg. I'd talk to your pediatrician about this and have him be there. I guarantee they will tell him that's not necessary. Your partner is going over the top. you don't need a timer. and definitely should not make them stay in that position when they are screaming. tummy time is beneficial, but it's not that serious.
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jessers22
my little guy doesn’t even last a minute before he starts fussing. I stop the minute he fusses. I don’t do it every day. He seems to be strong. If I hold him and he’s pushing his arms against me I count that as tummy time.
You don’t need to time baby.�� you are not being sensitive, hubby is being too rigid. It’s supposed to be fun and relaxed. Sorry baby and you are going through this. ��
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ahhhhbri1201
That would upset me too
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@ahhhhbri1201,
at this age babies cry for needs and that’s how they communicate. Babies cry due to discomfort, hunger, sleepy etc so letting the baby cry and not assisting is really weird to me. They depend on us to meet their needs and the child is communicating and being ignored. Hopefully he at least tries to verbally encourage the child and doesn’t just leave the baby in distress.
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ouat2244
@ahhhhbri1201,
yeah. stopping when they are upset builds trust. and tummy time should be a positive experience.
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@ouat2244,
Thanks for sharing the helpful resource. You rock!
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OllieJune33
@ouat2244,
I love taking Cara babies!! Her courses on sleep training are AMAZING and seriously helped us out even pre-baby cause we knew what to expect, thanks to her.
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TheRoosevelts
this is disturbing to me. Almost as if he’s enjoying disciplining or pushing an INFANT. Speak with your pediatrician and have him present. This just feels like he’s got bad intentions or something
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boymom3924
If baby was on back and started screaming would your husband pick baby up? What’s the difference? Tummy time is beneficial but not if it’s hurting the child…. I’ve been very lucky that my baby loves tummy time, prefers it actually, but as soon as he starts crying more than a whimper I pick him up. In any position he’s in….
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Mum2one2021
Definitely stop when they are upset. And honestly I’ve never done strict timing. My first is a happy healthy 2 year old. My second is ahead because he is already rolling tummy to back and found his feet before 4 months. I’ve never timed it and always let them stop when they are upset. And to be honest we were never great at even doing tummy time every day with our second because we also have the toddler. The kiddos still get it when they are ready!!
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girlmom101820
so I was actually going through this with my LO. I have to ask is baby formula fed??
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caitspence17
You’re not being too sensitive. This would definitely cause distrust for me and my partner, it is concerning that they are not listening to you and possibly engaging in this behavior behind your back. Honestly this would make me feel my baby is unsafe with this person. Is the partner a parent of the baby? I think you need to address it with the doctor present. I don’t take tummy time seriously in that I don’t time it and always stop when baby is crying- she is developing well and has great head control, I know she will get there!
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kme1022
I agree with all previous posters. It’s honestly unnecessary for that behavior. It sound like baby is bringing push far beyond their limits. Stop when they fuss not when they’re screaming. The can uncomfortable but not unbearable. If baby is seriously that uncomfortable from the get go, have him checked out by a pediatric chiropractor and make sure there’s nothing else going on. Helped my first tremendously
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